Some people are afraid to talk about or get help after a breakup. Others simply cannot afford to seek professional advice from a pro. Wherever you may fall on the grid, you must know that there are ways to treat your sadness that comes from losing your ex. Read and implement the tips about getting your ex girlfriend back in this article to help you fight against this loss.

Even if you are regularly exercising you should also be sure to regularly learn to control your emotions. Talking to an experienced relationship coach will be able to help you understand your own thoughts and actions much better than just trying to go it alone. Friends are also not a replacement for experience no matter how much they are trying to help. Friends usually give you advice that is “what they think” and not what has been proven to work.

If you work on the personal problems that you are up against, this will help with your situation. If you want her back you MUST control your emotions. Do what it takes to avoid becoming overwhelmed and take on tasks only once . You should find some nice music that makes you feel good, and does not make you think of her. Some of your problems may have nothing to do with the breakup at all. This time you now have to yourself is actually a much needed time to grow and become that better man that your ex girl needs.

Create a list of things to do in the relationship arena. Set a goal to get a new hone number every day, or make a new Facebook friend that is HOT. Even the simple act of getting a new girls phone number can do wonders for your spirit and your positive nature, giving you a sense of pride and accomplishment as you can check items off your to-do list. Even if it is a minor thing, you will be very surprised at how much you can get done.

Exercise. Studies have shown that people who exercise can get over break ups faster, and that those with even huge amounts of pain can help their condition by doing some kind of exercise. Exercising is not only great for your physical health but for your mental health as well, so start an exercise program. Do not choose an exercise program, choose a life routine. Be strict and always adhere to the routine you set for yourself.

You need to map out exactly what you are going to do… All the way from putting your sock and shoes in a gym bag, to how you are going to wash your body and what you will do with your towel. I know I sound crazy… but why do you think people do not stick to their exercise plans? Because unexpected things happen… like not being able to find a gym bag, or realizing that the car needs gas. A few unexpected things can completely eat up the time you had set to exercise.

A useful emotion-controlling tip is to simply conduct yourself as though you were not plagued by sadness.  Simply go about your day without mentally acknowledging your breakup or dwelling on your feelings of sadness, and you will soon feel your focus shift away from your ex girl and onto more positive aspects of your life.

Consider joining a membership site about the issue… that includes group for people suffering from a loss of a girlfriend. I offer one such forum in my workshop, that you can learn about in my free newlsetter. If you join such a group, you will be able to avoid the pain of isolation and talk about your issues with each other. But you must be careful not to become a pity party, or you will only attract compounded negativity to your life.

Whether you have apprehensions about talking to someone like me, that has a great deal of experience, or if you just can’t afford it, the tips contained in the above text will help you to fight against your situation. However, if you are serious about getting your ex girlfriend, then you must be willing to spend the money you used to spend on dates to get her back… so I challenge you to not only seek my free information, but to seriously consider the premium benefits that I offer in my workshop.

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• Yes, a girl is like a drug, and
• yes, when she dumped you, you lost your fix.
• Yes, your girl thinks she has moved on.
• Yes, she does not feel the withdrawals that you do

But She WILL... if you use the correct form of no contact. See the post below to understand how no contact could RUIN your chances if done incorrectly, but why it is your best choice and WILL almost always work IF DONE CORRECTLY.

• She will miss you
• She will have withdrawals when your not here
• She will feel the way you feel now
• You can make her see that you are the only one
• You are the only one who can make her happy
• You can get her back.

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No contact is a load of crap... when I ignored my girl, the only thing that happened was her getting pissed off at me...

The only thing I did was make her dislike me more and give her a better reason to stay away from me. No contact after a breakup is simply twisting the knife deeper.

So my question is this...

Why does every successful "How to get your ex back" teacher, coach, and trainer -say to apply the no contact rule after a breakup!?

Why does every "pro" say it is the best way, even though just about every guy I talk to INCLUDING the pros, say that the girl will likely get angry, and even show resentment?

And seriously... If I ignore my girl too long... I am just afraid that she will move on...

This is what I hear everyday. I am told reason after reason that no contact "will not work in my situation"

YES... if you have kids together... if you work together... if you have class together... then you need a special plan.

Any other excuse is BS.

So... she gets angry, or she gets sad, or she says she will move on, or she says she found a new boyfriend, or she says that you must have never cared for her if you ignored her...

That means that no contact did not work for you, right?

WRONG

you need to quickly watch my video titled "the one question"

The full video is only available in my free members area. So sign up and get it.

You should watch the full video to get the best understanding... but here is the basic point.

EVERYTIME your girl contacts you after a break up... it is for one of only 2 reasons.

1. She misses you a little and wants to hear your voice.
2. She is trying to get you to do something... in otherwords
SHE IS TRYING TO CONTROL or MANIPULATE your actions.

If she says: "I can now see that you never cared about me... because you won't even talk to me."

It means: "Please call me to 'prove' that you are not an asshole... and moreover... 'prove' that all I need to do is be negative to get a reaction out of you"

This will condition her to think that she can get your attention at any time by being negative. Your response to her negativity... will:

1. Make you look weak and unattractive
2. Condition BAD relationship damaging behavior
3. Reinforce your mistaken idea that no contact was bad for the relationship, or will not work for your relationship
4. Give her the air she needs to get back up and forget about you.

No contact WILL damage your relationship if you do not follow through to the very end

No contact WILL damage your relationship if you try to change it to "fit your style"

No contact WILL damage your relationship if you use some watered down method, that does not put her into a complete panicked submissive state.

No contact WILL work in just about every situation in which the relationship lasted a year or more

You need to use no contact right... then START contact right, at the right time. To learn more... get your behind here:

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The long answer is:

I have talked about this before, but it is so important for you to understand that if you are using the system I teach (created by Jay Cataldo) then you must not go to events that you think your girlfriend might be at.

You need your own time to work on yourself in the ways that I teach you, before you are ready to contact with her.

If you contact her too soon, you are going to make some big mistakes. I will tell you when you are ready, keep in contact with me, and take my advice. I will show you the best ways to get her back, and the best times to contact her.

One more time: Do not go to any places that you will run into your ex girlfriend if it is avoidable. If you have class together or if you work together, then get ahold of me for more customized advice.

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First off, don't get me wrong. I am not saying women are dogs, and I am not saying men are dogs either.What I am saying is that humans can learn something about themselves from dogs.

Cesar says something VITAL here! Simply change the word dog, to "my girlfriend", to "myself", to "humans".


Most guys do not understand this. And it is about WHEN to give affection. If you give affection to a dog when it is going crazy, then you are positively reinforcing bad behavior!

The same goes for people, and in our case, our girlfriends. If a girl does something bad, WHY on earth would you reward it with affection OR the fight she is looking for? In Cesar's words, "that only says I agree with that behavior"

Be a rock. Stand strong. Don't take anything she throws at you. Wait until she is calm to talk about it. and wait until she does something you like, to give her affection. Hopefully, she will do the same for you, so you can learn to stop your bad behaviors as well.

Give a girl affection and reinforce her good behavior with praise and gratitude. Hope she does the same for you, so you do not become a controlling jerk.

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Watching the dog whisperer has given me relationship insight, because I know that many, if not most people love to be led. Your girl is likely no exception. YOU are likely no exception. If you are always asking "what do you want to do?" or "what do you want to eat?"

You may think you are being "nice," but in reality, you are being lazy. laziness is the way FOLLOWERS act. Leaders KNOW, what thier friends or girlfriend wants, and takes them there.

There is no need to ASK, just lead. If she doesn't like what you chose, then listen to her input. but if she is not saying "hey let's go eat here!" THEN YOU SHOULD BE.

In a wild pack of dogs, there is a leader, and Cesar Millan helps humans learn to replace that leader and become the leader of a pack of dogs or dog.

Leading is truly a pain in the butt, because we have to think about the others and decide what will make them all happy, and decide how to help them reach the next level. If you want to make your girl/woman happy, then in most instances, you will need to lead her in the same way that Cesar Millan leads dogs.

The secret weapon to getting your girl back:
"Get Your Girl Back" by Jay Cataldo. Officailly, I can't do this for everyone, but here is the secret link just for the readers of this post, where I am going to offer you a free 30-60 min phone call to answer any and all of your questions about the book but only if you use this secret link: http://57932cqgptme2w3a19q6tjpr25.hop.clickbank.net/?tid=SECRETPHONECALL (of course you will need to join my list and send me your phone number!)

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Mindset tip: Just like Shontelle in this video, believe that your ex is thinking: "Nothin' feels right when I'm not with you," "I miss you," and "Now I don't know if I'm ever gonna let you go." It is vital that you see yourself as the stronger one. Even if it is not true yet, imagine your ex singing this song.
Make her actually feel like this with The 5 vital steps below.


The single most important part of getting your girl back is the ability to achieve these massively important steps.

At first glance they seem simple, but these steps are bigger than they seem, and if you look hard enough, I am giving you massive secrets to getting her back.

Before you read the steps. YOU MUST understand that they all have one thing in common: None of them should be done by use of persuasion or logical techniques that guys like to use so much. This is an emotional situation. And you must not try to do it you own way. Listen to experienced people, who can give you the best chance.

1. Make her uncertain about her decision to break up with you.
2. Make her WONDER what YOU are thinking.
3. Get her to contact you about her fears or worries.
4. Make her realize her mistake (breaking up with you) and see how you are meant for each other.
5. Have her ASK YOU to get back together

Remember, these steps are NOT achieved by persuasion, NOT by logic, and NOT by showing her how much you care.

I know what you are thinking:

"She already made her decision to break up (maybe moved on), and she never second guesses herself. She is real stubborn, and I doubt I could get her to EVER do ANY of these steps"

But the can almost always be achieved if you had a long term relationship, and are not impossible with a short term relationship either. But HOW?

Keep an eye out for 5 new videos with more in depth information on each step, coming soon.
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I have a question.

My girl and I have been together for 2 years. Pretty much everyday I heard "marry me"

You probably avoided this question, right? You started acting wishy washy about the whole subject and started looking like a man who couldn't make a decision, instead of the leaders that men are supposed to be.

She just graduated collage and has freaked out about pretty much everything, including us.

You got this right, but I think you are missing the real reason WHY she freaked out.

You see, things started to get crazy. And when she started to freak out, she NEEDED a ROCK to fall back on. She needed someone to pick her up on her feet and say, "PULL IT THE $&@# TOGETHER!!!, everything is going to be fine, I got you babe"

But us modern day men have lost this intuition. We see our girl to freak out, and guess what happens?! WE START TO FREAK OUT TOO!!

We try to figure out what is wrong by ASKING her, and we try to persuade her, and convince her that we are hopeless without her, that we would do anything for her.

We slowly but surely subconsciously convince our girls that we will never be the ROCK that she needs.

We whent on a break, then a break up. I can tell you first hand the advice in this blog are right on, because I freaked out as well t first. Completly out of left field this came, to me I guess.

Yep, it happens to the best of us.

Anyway, I was planning on asking her to marry me. I had the ring and everything. Was going to do it at her family graduation party, but a month befor this crap started goin on.

You'd think that's what she wanted. But it would just be YOU giving in to HER leading.

This causes her to lose attraction, because she really wants someone to be leading her.

She a good person, not one that lies, cheats, or sleeps around.

Yes, most girls who date a guy for a long time ARE good girls... But we (being the stupid unintuitive men that we are) put them in a desperate situation.

Many guys are shocked that their good girlfriends slept with someone else right after the breakup.

DON'T BE! MOST GIRLS DO... But they were desperate for a leader, they freaked out without one. And good girls, who are freaked out and desperate for a leader will do a lot of things they would normally never do.

They just WILL.

She tells me that she is depressed about everything. She has no clue what she wants to do and is scared to death about working full time lol and that this depression is making her feel hot and cold about us. Sometime she wants me, then she doesn't.

This is good

She tells me that I'm the only one for her. She wants her babies to be with me, but she's just not sure about right now.

Awesome!

I beleive her. I'm I being nieve?

No, she is telling the truth. But the trouble is... for some reason she is no longer sure of the truth. Unless you can start being that ROCK of a man that is going to make her feel calm, safe, and in the right place... you are going to make SURE she decides that she was wrong about wanting to be with you.

You have a best case break up scenario. If you read the book I recommend, and follow its advice exactly. I think you have a 98% chance of turning your relationship into whatever you want it to be.

You have an amazing opportunity to SHOW her you are the right guy for her and keep her HOT for you, for as long as you want.

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But you are not going to accomplish this with persuasion, showing her how much you care, talking to her about whats going on, telling her how you have become this strong rock, or any other thing you have likely thought of.

You have to suddenly see what you are currently blind to. You have to see what is REALLY going on in her head.

YOU HAVE TO SEE WHAT EVEN SHE CAN'T SEE... because she doesn't know why she is freaking out EITHER!
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Can depression really do this to a relationship?

NOPE... not unless YOU are adding to the depression instead of getting rid of it. And from what I read, you are just like me and many other modern day guys that lost touch with the man inside. So, you are partly cause of the depression and were only making it worse.

Seriously, if you were a rock. If you were her safe place. If you were the one that made all the bad stuff go away. SHE WOULD WANT YOU MORE DURING DEPRESSION THAN ANY OTHER TIME.

She says she depressed, but she can still go out with the girls and have a good time. I thought depression mean you can't move from the couch, let alone go out?

Once again... you were a CAUSE of the depression.

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Seems like when were broken up she wants me and when she with me, not so much.

YES!!! You get back together too soon, and then she goes cold again. You have to make her realize that you are the only one for her BEYOND THE SHADOW OF A DOUBT! you have to get back together the right way, NOT THE FAST WAY.

We went out together this past weekend. Started broken up, I was cool, fun, didn't hang around a hole lot, kinda di my thing. Made sure she seem me talking to 2 pretty girls, who o interduced them to her as my GF, later. By the next day she wanted me back. So I took her back. Now, she cold again.

you did OK, but it was just too weak. she said she wanted you back, and you said "OK"... you did not make it a challenge to get you back, so now she thinks. "I can have him back whenever I want, I just have to ask, so I will go play on my own for a while"

---she is not thinking this in an evil way... it is just subconsciously in the back of her mind... we are talking human psychology here.

(I'm no doctor and do not claim to be. Take Everything I say with a grain of salt.)

I'm thinking About taking control, in a calm nice way and break ip with her?

I'm torn. I would buy the book I recommend, as it shows you all the signs to look for to know if she is planning another break up. The warning signs are all right on.

If you think she is going to end it. You can make her want you really bad again WITHOUT breaking it off exactly.

Saying, I think with all this goin on I can't have the ups and downs

-nah... men are suppossed to be rocks that help steady the storm that is shaking the ocean (the ocean is the woman)

, I will be here for you as a friend while you go through this, but not as a boyfriend.

This last sentence is suicide. Stop with the "I'll be here for you" Just never ever ever use it again. you will be stuck in the friend zone forever.

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What do you guys think? Thanks for hearing me out.

Age reference. I'm 26, she's 23.

Thanks for any advice

You are welcome!